Dear Paws to Talk,
Ever since I was a little girl, I wanted to have a dog. At the age of 11, my parents agreed our family could get one. We loaded into the car, drove two hours and met our new dog, Pumpkin.
I spent my free time loving and playing with Pumpkin. That dog was my best friend.
Sadly, Pumpkin died of cancer when I was in college. That experience was completely devastating.
It has been several years since Pumpkin passed away. Recently, I adopted a dog of my own named Buddy. He is the first dog in my life since Pumpkin. Buddy already has a hold of my heart. I love him so much but am afraid of losing him.
Obviously, all of us don’t live forever but the fear of losing another animal close to me is really bothersome. How do I let go of this awful feeling?
-Jane the Human
Sometimes life can be like a box of treats gone stale. We hate when that happens. Spitting out a treat goes against every fiber of our being.
We wish whoever decides life and death would forget the death part. However, that doesn’t seem possible.
It must have been so sad to lose Pumpkin. You probably felt like curling up in a ball, clutching his favorite toy in your mouth and crying. It is important to allow yourself to feel upset.
Although, no matter what happened in the past, it is no good to constantly be afraid. By worrying about losing Buddy you are missing the fun stuff. Sure you may regularly play fetch with your new canine love but it is a flawed game because your mind is distracted by fear.
This may be difficult but you have to let go of the pain from losing Pumpkin. Perhaps, you can write down why you are so sad after all these years? If you still have Pumpkin’s toys maybe you should get rid of them or store them somewhere far away? This way you won’t be constantly reminded of your loss.
As you said, we don’t live forever. All the more reason to sink your teeth into the present (or a juicy bone).
It is okay to turn blue once in a while but just make sure your coat returns to its normal color sooner than later.
Bella and DiDi
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