Dear Paws to Talk,
I have a younger sister named Lola. I love her but she is always borrowing my toys and clothes without asking. Also, she eats kibble out of my bowl.
I have barked in her ear about my dissatisfaction with her behavior but that doesn’t seem to be helping. I don’t mind sharing but it would be nice if Lola would ask before she uses or eats something that belongs to me.
You are sisters. Does this happen in your house? How do you cope?
-Hattie the Maltese
You are not alone. This absolutely happens in our house. We think it is a part of being siblings.
We each have a different point of view on this topic. See our responses separately below.
Bella: Hattie I think because we are the older siblings we bear more of the burden when it comes to dealing with the younger ones. We are expected to teach them how to behave, give them love and of course see them through their growing pains.
Because we give so much, they get used to taking so much. My bed and kibble bowl might as well have “DiDi” stamped on them. She is always in my business.
It is annoying but it is also an honor. We have bonded in a way that no one else can understand.
However, don’t let this sweet sentiment lull you into submission. Keep telling Lola to ask before putting her paws on your stuff. You might want to tell her that the treat fairies often don’t visit dogs who steal. This may solve your problem right away.
DiDi: No offense Hattie but I think older siblings can get their fur tied up in knots over little things. Bella gets upset when I eat out of her kibble dish but she is forgetting that she can eat out of my dish. It is not like I am eating all the kibble at once. Although, that is a good thing to try one day when I’m really mad at her.
Lola probably likes your style which is why she wears your clothes. Try to see it as a compliment. If she leaves you standing naked with no collars or clothes then it is time to be furious.
It is proper to ask permission but I admit that I am not always proper. I agree with Bella (Did I just write that?) in that you should keep telling Lola how you feel about her taking your things. If she doesn’t listen then get your shovel out and start hiding your prized possessions.
Does anyone else out there have this problem with siblings? Tell us how you deal with it.
Bella and DiDi
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