Dear Paws to Talk,
Since I was a little girl, I have always been the most outspoken person in my family. If a child was being bullied on the playground I would tell the teacher. If I saw someone being abusive, I would call the proper authorities. If someone insulted the people I love, I would speak up. It is in my personality to vocalize a problem when I see it.
I admit that there are moments where I can get passionate says things that may be a bit dramatic. However, I usually speak my mind with diplomacy especially since I have been in the corporate world for the past few years.
Despite the fact that I am a successful adult and citizen, when I am around my family they worry that I might say too much. Even if I give an opinion sometimes I am told to stop.
I love my family and for a while they have been the ones that I count on for reality checks. Why are they censoring me? Am I too vocal?
-Maria the Human
Howl Maria the Human,
This is a very good question. We don’t bark incessantly but on certain days, it seems like our humans want us to be mute. Don’t they know that we have important things to say?
We admire you for vocalizing a problem or issue when someone else may be too afraid to do it. That makes you a unique human. If you think it is a worthwhile cause, then use your voice in a proper tone. No one will ever take you seriously if you are a yelling and swearing idiot. Save that for the Housewives reality shows.
While family is an important support system for each of us, ultimately they don’t control your behavior. Your family is probably very proud of you. When you give an opinion, they might have flashbacks to your less diplomatic days. This is their problem. Give them a firm reminder that you are a well-spoken adult with good character.
Remain vocal, especially when you see someone in need. It is easy to say nothing. Take the more challenging path. You’ll probably find that there is more satisfaction along your route.
Bella and DiDi
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