Dear Paws to Talk,
I live in a house with a bunch of humans and a dog. My home is very lively. Other humans are always stopping by and everyone loves to socialize. I like the company but I also like being alone.
When I am by myself in my own room (I have designated a fully furnished one as mine), I feel truly at peace. I close the door and stretch out. Sometimes I play with my toys but a lot of the time I hop up on the couch and sleep.
The other members of my family make fun of me for taking alone time. However, if I don’t get away from the group once in a while I start to feel restless. Is there anything wrong with being alone?
-Joy the Cat
We’re pleased that you wrote to us. It sounds like you have quite an outgoing family. Good for them.
There is nothing wrong with being alone. In fact, we think it shows great strength of character that you are comfortable being by yourself. A lot of times, humans and animals spend time with others because they are afraid of being alone. We admire your independence. You should hold your furry head high and walk around with pride.
Of course, there is nothing wrong with wanting the company of others, even if it is just to combat loneliness. It is fine, if the dog wants to invite over the whole neighborhood to play. This doesn’t mean that you have to partake in the game. Everybody has different preferences.
If you are lucky enough to live in a free country, have a roof over your head and not be in jail then you should do things that fulfill you.
Your family should be relieved that all your require to be happy is a little alone time. You could have a desire to collect diamonds and precious stones. Then they would really have something to squabble about.
The next time someone makes fun of you for going to your peaceful place, let them know their behavior is unacceptable. Hiss at them in a low to medium tone. Maybe they will pause for a moment and see you as the bold feline you are? We hope so.
Bella and DiDi
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